In stark contrast to Daddy Daycare, A Dad Is Born - also made by Love Productions, ironically enough - offered a sensitive examination of what happens when men become fathers. Kira Phillips' film followed several men as they waited for their babies to arrive, attended the birth and dealt with the first couple of weeks at home.
It was moving to watch the men's fear, their attempts to do their best for their partners and children, and the simple day-to-day caring that is so central to becoming a modern father.
Keeping the ship steady...being there...coping with being unable to take the pain away...feeling the love...thinking about what kind of dad you want to be...dealing with your partner's emotions...wondering how other dads feel...holding it all together...
Reading all the books in the world can't prepare you for new fatherhood - but what this lovely little film showed in spades is that dads need to be open to its hugeness. That's something we in the UK do little to encourage, with our icy-cold ideas about masculinity, our father-blind maternity services and our all-too-short paternity leave provision. High time we put all that right.
It was moving to watch the men's fear, their attempts to do their best for their partners and children, and the simple day-to-day caring that is so central to becoming a modern father.
Keeping the ship steady...being there...coping with being unable to take the pain away...feeling the love...thinking about what kind of dad you want to be...dealing with your partner's emotions...wondering how other dads feel...holding it all together...
Reading all the books in the world can't prepare you for new fatherhood - but what this lovely little film showed in spades is that dads need to be open to its hugeness. That's something we in the UK do little to encourage, with our icy-cold ideas about masculinity, our father-blind maternity services and our all-too-short paternity leave provision. High time we put all that right.
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